Truth About Qualification
In this regard, your mentality is the same as it was when you were a 'nice guy' or AFC (Average Frustrated Chump). Back then, you really wanted to please women. You wanted their attention and approval. You admitted that you didn't understand women.
Then, you found the community. Here, you may have learned some frames and attitudes to help you 'understand' them, and you may have learned some clever tactics to get their attention, but your desire to please women was never challenged or changed.
There is very little difference between an AFC and a PUA. They both aim to please. They both are addicted to the attention and approval of women. You may say that the AFC is out to please by becoming 'boyfriend material,' and the PUA is out to please by merely becoming 'sex worthy,' but even that is suspect.
A PUA is just an AFC who's sexualized his aim to please women.
Since I've put myself on a conscious path to find 'the one' it seems I am having daily bouts of insight. I got over my obsessive promiscuity real quick when I realized it was nothing more than a compulsory desire to please women.
The community never questions this: Learn how to pick up chicks. Learn how to attract beautiful women. Learn how to increase value. Learn how to create chemistry. Learn how to pass her tests. Learn how to arouse desire. Learn how to chase, pursue, and please.
Let's take the concept of qualification. Look at this statement:
"Understanding qualification is absolutely crucial not only for successfully getting a woman, but also for getting better with women in general."
Do you see the problem with this? Do you see the insidious undercurrent that everything about the community reinforces the assumption that you need to please women?
This is just one small example.
Qualification is not to tactic. It is not something you use to convince her that you are a 'sexual selector' so she'll decide to let you please her.
Qualification is not a way for you to boost her level of interest.
Qualification is how you screen women, for real. It is how you weed out the ones you don't want in your life because you have standards.
Yes, you are allowed to have standards. And not because it makes you more attractive to women, but because it makes you a MAN.
Let me rewrite the above statement:
"Understanding qualification is absolutely crucial to pleasing yourself."
Pleasing women is no measure of success. You can brag about how many chicks you've 'scored,' but this is just an an appeal to vanity -- your excessive belief about your own attractiveness, prowess, or ability to please others.
Here's a question for you:
Was she really into you or was she just bored and horny?
Now, if you have Polarized Your 'Game' and you are on Path #2, I say go for it as long as the expectations are clear and mutual.
If you are on Path #1, qualification is critical. The measure of success here is the degree to which a woman matches your standards.
I'm going to write more on standards and expectations, but for now, I will tell you the #1 thing I screen for because it encompasses all of the other standards (like the 4 Pillars of L.O.V.E.) when looking for longevity and continuity in a relationship.
And that factor is called.... INTEREST.
This is how I see it: "I am only interested in a woman interested in me."
Further: "To show interest, her standards will sync with my own."
I did not say, 'effortlessly,' as successful relationships require deliberate effort. The point is that she understands my standards, and our expectations are effectively mutual.
Notice that my perspective is not to create interest, for I am only looking for women that are interested in me from the start. We strive to find out if we share ideas and are on the same page as far as commitment and life purpose.
If a woman is not interested in me, then I am not interested in her. I am not concerned with the one that got away. Nor am I concerned with sex. If our expectations aren't aligned, I will dump her long before sex.
In the results-obsessed seduction community, success equals having women. Failure equals being single.
In the Savage system, success equals being committed to an interested women. Failure equals being committed to UNinterested women.
After all, being in an unsatisfying marriage is FAR WORSE than being single.