Thoughts on Pleasure and Joy
I met a great girl a couple days ago. I’m sharing the weekend with her. She’s beautiful. She’s got a high-self-esteem. She’s ambitious, intelligent, and driven. She’s affectionate, playful, and giving. A great hostess with a great outlook on life. She’s adventurous. We’re going camping!
Some guys have already expressed to me that they can’t believe I pull chicks and I sleep in a van! And here is a girl that has known me for the blink of an eye and wants to hit the road with me! (Actually, a few other girls have expressed the same desire.) But this one I am going to take on a memorable little journey (for a day) – maybe she will recoil and retreat to the hustle-n-bustle of her daily grind. Maybe she will get her own van or take a road trip on her own terms. Maybe she will rethink what she believes to be important, comforting, or limiting.
Maybe we as so-called pick-up-artists can influence people in ways we never dreamed or imagined possible. Maybe we should seek and offer more than sex, validation, or any egoic gain. Maybe we can help women taste inner freedom, joy and peace. Just a glimpse, you know? This is an artform, right? Maybe I am getting ahead of myself.
For now, I know that I need to be more conscious of the frames I set, the value I display, and the direction I take my interactions. To be aware of effects and emotions (among other intangibles). I need to write down and solidify these themes, attitudes, and dreams. To use them and live them thoughtfully and deliberately.
I read that pleasure is derived from external things, while joy arises from within. How many of our journeys are seeking pleasure-fulfilment-recongnition-validation-security? And how many of us are actually seeking and discovering our own personal joy and love and inner stillness? What do you give your energy to?
The present moment is all we ever have. GoneSavage