"Why is it so hard to find a soulmate? Because most of us are actually searching for egomates instead. We place the most limited and unloving aspects of our minds in charge of our search for love, and then wonder why we aren't succeeding. To the degree that we identify with this false sense of self, and operate on the basis of its limited point of view, we aren't looking for someone to love so much as recruiting fellow actors to take on supporting roles in a favorite melodrama."
-- Carolyn Miller
Yes, and there is one more dimension of utmost importance to us: body-mates, sex-mates, playmates.
Think about it this way. We all have three inner forces, often at odds with one another.
--Your ego wants to do what looks good.
--Your body wants to do what feels good.
--And your soul wants to do what IS GOOD (what is best in the long-run, and what is best for all parties involved).
What sort of mate do you seek?