Friday, May 15, 2009

The Catch-22 of a Woman's Intuition

Here's another idea that Zan brought up the other night.

Realize that when a couple decides to become exclusive -- sincerely and with the best intentions -- it is only the guy who is pulled out of the "game."

Almost always, the man represents action; the woman reaction.

So, he makes the decision not to approach other women while in this relationship. He has no reason to -- he has the trust, appreciation, companionship, and intimacy of the one he wants. But, when he gets back in the scene after this relationship dissolves, he is rusty to say the least. Any guy who has had a long-term relationship -- whether three years or thirteen can relate... Oh shit, what do I do now?

Now, on the other hand, the woman who has genuinely decided not to sleep with other men is still getting approached, daily, throughout the relationship. She is constantly reminded of other options and opportunities. She is in contact with "game" virtually every day, from a very young age.

One result of this disparity is that women becomes vastly more intuitive than men when it comes to dating and connecting.

Zan mentioned a woman who told him she can read a man's entire belief system written on his face, the moment he approaches.

My thought is this:

How nice it must be to so easily distinguish the guys that are inauthentic, unexciting, or otherwise a waste of your time.

But, how sad it must be that the ones you'd really like to get to know are so damn rare.



Blogger Poetry of Flesh said...

That last sentence hit way too close to home. Lovely, though.

May 18, 2009  
Blogger Erika said...

I think the woman Zan mentioned was me ... lol :-)

May 24, 2009  
Blogger Dagmar said...

Yes, our choices seem sometimes infinate, but those we choose to exercise are far and few between.

August 17, 2010  

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