Devotion vs Commitment
Let’s take a look at what this really means. A commitment is an “obligation, responsibility, or promise that restricts freedom of action.” By definition, commitment places restriction born of obligation.
And you know how I always say that obligation inhibits lust.
Commitment sounds like you’ve been forced into an institution. Don’t we use the same word to mean being placed into confinement or custody -- as in a mental health facility? Think about it. Commitment is a term of binding and confinement.
A much better concept is devotion.
Devotion means “ardent, often selfless affection and dedication.” Finding someone that you want to devote yourself to is a giving, selfless matter. Devotion means giving entirely of your mind, body and soul to deep, dedicated love.
Devotion is not about restricting freedom. It is not about binding and confining someone to a course of action. Devotion is about exploring a relationship with open, honest communication full of trust and loyalty. (See also Loyalty vs Fidelity.)
Do you want a partner with whom you feel obligated to have a commitment?
Or do you want a lover with whom you can share lustful devotion?
The choice is yours.
Juan Antonio: Well, now that the day's almost over, is it reasonable of me to ask you if you'll both join me in my room?
Vicky: Oh, come on, I thought we'd settled that.
Cristina: Vicky's just trying to say that she's engaged to be married, that's all.
Juan Antonio: Great. Then these are her last days of freedom.
Vicky: No. Look, I'm not free. I'm committed. You know what my theory is? And when I drink, I get brutally frank. I think that you're still hurting from the failure of your marriage to Maria Elena, and you're trying to lose yourself in empty sex.
Juan Antonio: Empty sex? Why do you have such a low opinion of yourself?