Sunday, March 08, 2009

What is a slut?

What is your definition of a slut?

1. A woman who will sleep with anyone.
2. A woman who will sleep with anyone, but you.
3. A woman with the sex drive and morality of a man.
4. Any person – woman or man – who lives a deliberately open sexual life; full of courage, freedom, adventure, and abundance.

I’m creating a test that will help people understand their sexual attitudes. We all have to take a close look at our default thoughts and patterns. Some of your attitudes may need to be reframed or replaced. Only then, can you begin to express healthy sexual attitudes and convey an attractive sexual essence.

I personally don’t use the word “slut” at all simply because of the negative connotations. But frequently I find men and women using this word. Whenever I hear it, I promptly interrupt the conversation. And I relay definition D.

A slut is any person who lives a deliberately open sexual life. She makes no apologies for her desire. She fucks whomever she wants, for reasons that only have to make sense to her. It takes courage to be a slut, but it is liberating. Sex feels good. And it is good for you.

I’ve met many men in the seduction community that have a disturbing compartmentalization of the Madonna-Whore complex. They want one woman they can take in a back alley and one woman they can take home to mom. One woman to take a money-shot on the face and one woman to take their hand in marriage.

Women are as lustful as we are. Women are as sexually frustrated as we are. We are the same.

Women are capable of being sexually liberated with wild and passionate prowess. Women are capable of being compassionate, caring, thoughtful, and emotive. Just like us. We are the same.

So drop the Madonna-Whore complex. Give up the Slut-vs-Stud double standard. And while you're at it, get rid of your guilt, victimhood, taker-behavior, and judgements about sex.

We are all here to become sexually free and find our own unique flavors of natural human sexuality.

With courage, we can all become radical, ethical sluts.

GoneSavage

“A slut shares his sexuality the way a philanthropist shares her money -- because they have a lot of it to share, because it makes them happy to share it, and because sharing makes the world a better place.” -- Dossie Easton

6 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

“A slut shares his sexuality the way a philanthropist shares her money -- because they have a lot of it to share, because it makes them happy to share it, and because sharing makes the world a better place.” -- Dossie Easton

well that is not the whole question, men do not want to marry a "slut" or invest in a family with her because they do not want their kids to turn out not being theirs and/or they do not want their wives to cheat.

The question is does having lots of casuel sex partners and being able to fully separate love from sex increases the risk of infidelity be it a man or a women?

Of course if you do not want to invest in raising a family then you won't care about what type of girl you go out with but if you want to invest your energy in a family...you sure don't want to raise another man's child...

Sleeping around can get addictive and it becomes hard to break that cycle...same as men who sleep with prostitutes, it's so easy and tempting that they get addicted to it.

you opinions?

March 08, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm actually printing this one as i deal with a lot of hard headed people.
I always try to control my fury when i hear someone say the S-word.
this is the perfect response to them.
Thanx.
Cheers.

March 09, 2009  
Blogger GoneSavage said...

Unfortunately, 95% of the guys in the seduction community are guys that have no success with women. Many of them are quite bitter about it. Women can often sense this, which is part of the reason for their lack of success. Additionally, their attitudes about sexuality are equally weak. The prevalence of the Madonna-Whore complex makes it a great starting point at reframing sterile sexual thoughts.

>>"Men do not want to marry a "slut" or invest in a family with her because they do not want their kids to turn out not being theirs and/or they do not want their wives to cheat."

You are following a poor sexual paradigm. In short, you are used to seeking obligatory sex and not lustful sex. Also, I’m curious, would you stop loving and caring for your child if you found out that your child was not of your own genetic stock?

>>>"The question is does having lots of casual sex partners and being able to fully separate love from sex increases the risk of infidelity be it a man or a women?"

My definition of a slut never suggests separating love and sex. You embody the Madonna-Whore complex when you try to separate love and sex. Can you separate love and sex? Sure. But if you are concerned with fidelity, I suggest you do not make that separation. I am more concerned with loyalty than fidelity, which includes being open and honest about any casual activity outside-of-the-primary-relationship (if that is the case).

>>>”Of course if you do not want to invest in raising a family then you won't care about what type of girl you go out with but if you want to invest your energy in a family...you sure don't want to raise another man's child...”

If fidelity is that important to you, then you have to choose a woman who puts as much importance on it as you do. If you want a family, you have to choose a girl that wants to invest in a family with you as well. The ability to be a good mother is not mutually exclusive of being a wild, passionate sexual temptress. I’m just letting people know that sexual judgment is distasteful. Whether you want monogamy or anything else, projecting an attitude that you can’t love or trust someone who is sexually free is unattractive.

In my experience, people that are sexually free and embrace natural human sexuality, almost always connect sex and love. We saturate sex with love. We infuse sex with deep meaningful love. This is often the difference between true satisfaction and superficial pleasure.

We are romantic explorers rather than people searching for perfection or fidelity. And we’re always better in bed too because we have sex from lust and not obligation.

March 09, 2009  
Blogger 0 said...

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March 09, 2009  
Blogger Erika said...

hi Savage,

I'm so happy you posted about this. Very refreshing to hear it from a guy. I've written a lot about this on RSDN.

What I've noticed is that the guys who are most successful with women are the LEAST likely to judge (with rare exceptions). Not a coincidence.

March 09, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

the madonna whore complex is applied to women too... like freud said "where they love (attachement) they cannot lust (attraction) and where they lust they cannot love"

you mention one thing that is Crucial: "I am more concerned with loyalty than fidelity, which includes being open and honest about any casual activity outside-of-the-primary-relationship"

the more a person is in love/attached to the other the more he becomes jealous when the other person is attracted to someone else and acts on it.

women put guys into 2 boxes two, a lover and a provider... one to fuck and the other to marry...it's the same thing, women are not devoid of the complex because the complex is about seperating sex and love...

there is an interesting book by a psychologist mitchel something on why romance dies in a long-term relationship and his answer is that people get too scared when they love and lust after the same person...
MH

March 10, 2009  

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