A Ripe and Juicy Invitation
With a new reserve of courage, she’s leaving her comfort zone. She’s begun a quest for a provocative new relationship paradigm. She’s open-minded and wants to be surprised, but here are a few qualities I know she admires:
Honesty combined with creativity.
Compassion mixed with unpredictability.
Intimacy merged with intensity.
And longevity blended with liveliness.
She’s exercising her uniquely human right to consciously choose her next adventure. This very courage is essential to living abundantly. She’s a passionate pioneer exploring raw virgin territory.
I wrote up this primer on polyamory for her and anyone else wandering into the jungle of natural human sexuality:
The first step is to realize that most modern models of love and sex function on a scarcity frame of mind. There’s not enough passion to go around. We have to catch it, keep it, hoard it, put a ring on it...
Then you realize that passion is abundant, and you start to see how it can be channeled in different directions. We harness raw electricity and make it useful by channeling it through protected wires. The electric thrill of desire and excitement can be directed the same way. You have to trust yourself to become a conduit of this ecstatic electricity to find your unique path of passion.
I talk a lot about “natural human sexuality.” I believe natural human sexuality is neither monogamy nor promiscuity. The term is artfully and purposefully vague, but I think natural human sexuality is some form of polyamory – which comes in many flavors. Which flavor is right for you is part of discovering your unique path of passion.
Here are three frames I aspire to always keep in mind. I’m presenting them with very little explanation so you can allow them to uniquely inspire you on your journey...
1.My passion is bigger than any one person can hold.
2. You can’t expect to get all your needs met from one person. (That creates pressure, and pressure is the opposite of pleasure.)
3. Love does not give you a moral duty to impose romantic discipline on anyone else (or yourself). (Possessiveness is the opposite of generosity.)
Finally, addressing the Zanism “give her the gift of missing you,” I love this quotation from The Prophet by Khalil Gibran. I evoke this when I know distance is going to separate me from a cherished lover "until next time..." I proudly write this across the sail of any relationSHIP that I board...
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”