What Makes a Woman Sexy?

A few years ago I was a photographer for a popular men's magazine in Hollywood. One day I did test shoots for two girls. They were both the same age and both aspiring models.

One had all the attributes of natural beauty. She had a nice form and great features. But was she sexy? Not really. She let her hair hang carelessly. Her clothes were plain and they hid her best features. And she carried herself like she didn’t much like herself.

Later, I met a girl who had much less to work with physically. But I have to tell you, she had a lot of sex appeal. I mean a lot. She dressed well. She carried herself with energy. The way she moved and the way she looked at you was very feminine and very sensual. She had this magnetism. I don’t know how else to describe it; she just had a magnetic inner beauty that was very sexy.

It seems that the older I get, the more I appreciate true sexiness, and the better I can articulate what makes a woman sexy. To me, sex appeal has little to do with age, or physical looks, or whether or not you have had children.

It's all about attitude. Being sexy is thinking sexy. Thinking sexy projects inner beauty. It's about confidence, charm, body language, warmth, sensuality, spontaneity, and intelligence.

A sexy woman loves herself. She loves being a woman. She is happy with her body. She loves feeling sexy and thinking sexy and flirting. She enjoys being enjoyed as a woman.

A sexy woman loves men. She sees men as equals, not just as lovers. She would never treat a man in a cold way. There's no bitterness toward men in general, or any one in particular.

A sexy woman loves sex. She knows sexual appreciation is linked to self-esteem. She sees sex as a pleasure, not a chore. As one of the greatest joys of life, not a bargaining chip. She loves when a man can arouse both her body and mind. She knows that sex is the heartbeat of any potential relationship.

A sexy woman loves life. She's always up for a new adventure. She's not afraid to let her hair down. She feels at least five years younger than her actual age. She's knows that life is short and all we take with us are memories.

A sexy woman knows that attraction between a man and a woman is natural. It's automatic. It's always there just beneath the surface. We don't need to impress each other. If it's there, we'll feel it.

A sexy woman is not afraid to make a man feel desired as a man. She has no time for games. She wants to makes him feel like the most irresistible man on Earth.

A sexy woman knows that chemistry is not determined by a test or a survey. There is only one way to feel chemistry: In person.

A sexy woman knows that passionate relationships always start out passionately. It's in those first moments of meeting.

It's the eye contact. It's the butterflies. It's getting closer. It's the first brush of our hands. It's the crackle of tension in the air. It's the way a voice touches your mind just as fingertips would touch your skin.

Chemistry happens in those amazing moments when you just feel at ease, your heart races faster, and you think of the adventures that lie ahead. When this happens, it’s the most electrifying and exhilarating feeling in the world.

What is it that causes two people to become attracted?

Is it a feeling from inside?
Like a magnet drawing him toward you...

Or is it a force from outside?
Like a slingshot shooting you toward him...

A sexy woman knows that it doesn't matter. All that matters is that we took a chance...