Do you play to play, or play to win?

Do you play to play, or play to win?

When an archer shoots for nothing, he has all his skill.
When he shoots for a brass buckle, he is already nervous.
When he shoots for a prize of gold, he goes blind.
He sees two targets, and is out of his mind.

His skill has not changed, but the prize divides him.
He thinks more of winning than of shooting.
And the need to win drains him of power.

The above was said by the Chinese sage, Tranxu, many centuries ago. But, man, if it is not as true today as ever!

When you are playing for the sake of enjoying play, you have all your skill. When you start playing to "win" -- your ego gets involved, and you lose focus.

Learn seduction for fun and pleasure. Because it leads to companionship, intimacy, and lustful sex. Don't lose focus with egoic pursuits such as bragging, writing LRs, or being declared the "greatest" by a fanbase of other men.

Seduction is ultimately about a one-on-one connection. You and her. Stop caring what other people think. Seduction is not a popularity contest.

I'm really particular with guys I teach. I work only with men who want to learn effective seductive (not social) methods of escalation that lead to physical arousal. I work only with men who love sex. I work only with men who love women.

My infield workshops are affordable because I do this for fun. I want to help you drop the useless, arbitrary, and try-hard stuff. Focus on what truly works. Focus on the skillset of seduction and not the number's game of pick-up. Simplicity for the win.

Sincerely, Jason Savage aka "GoneSavage"

PS. Don't forget that the field is king. The field is where theory meets practice. Find me, and I'll show you what I mean.

Do Less -- A Metaphor

Can you get to Austin from Dallas, by driving through Houston?

Of course you can.

But why would you?

Why not take the simplest, most efficient route?

I'll tell you why...

either a) ignorance or b) ego.

Either you truly do not know that there is a direct route from Dallas to Austin.

Or... there is some reason you are going to Houston first. Some superficial reason that ultimately has no bearing upon your arrival in Austin. Maybe you feel you can't appreciate Austin without experiencing the contrast of Houston. Maybe you feel undeserving of Austin without Houston's approval.

Now, the ignorant guys are fine. We just give them a map.

But what bothers me are the misdirected guys that insist on misdirecting others. "You cannot get to Austin from Dallas without going to Houston first, it's impossible."

They can be quite convincing. "Look, they won't even let a guy from Dallas into Austin unless they feel that he's been to Houston first, that's just the way it is."

So, the guy convinces you that you have to go through Houston to get to Austin. You invariably get lost in Houston, waste lots of precious time, and end up stranded some place like Beaumont. Ew.

I've seen it happen.

When the starting point is the same and the destination is the same, there are lots of routes you can chose to take in making a journey.

Most of us prefer the simplest, most efficient route.

Do less.

Escalation is a direct, yet gradual process. It's non-flashy, forward momentum.

Some things are arbitrary -- like stopping for lunch in Waco.

Some things are a waste of time -- like going through Houston.

When I talk about "do less" I'm talking about identifying what's a waste of time and choosing to take the most efficient route.

Save time. Save money. Save energy and effort.

And let's be honest, don't we all want to get to Austin as quickly as possible?

See you at the Texas Summit.

http://txpuasummit.wordpress.com/

GoneSavage

Savage Compatibility Test

Are you feeling a little exhausted with this whole online thing? Are your efforts yielding sub-par results? Are you ready to discover what it takes to find someone worthwhile?

Are you ready to stop making mistakes and wasting precious time?

If you're really ready, I'm going to give you all the insights you need. They're all right in front of you in this simple test that is both fun and powerful.

To begin, give yourself 100 points. Proceed accordingly:

1. If all your pictures are from within the last year. Add 10 points.
2. If you have at least one standing, full body picture. Add 10 points.
3. If you have any pictures without you in them (like pets or travel). Subtract 10 points each.
4. If you have pictures showing hairstyles that are not current. Subtract 10 points each.
5. If you have more than one picture with a drink in your hand. Subtract 10 points each.
6. If you have a picture wearing sunglasses. Subtract 20 points.
7. If you have a picture holding someone else's baby. Subtract 30 points.
8. If you have a picture with either an ex or the ex cropped out. Subtract 40 points.
9. If you have a picture of you in a Halloween costume. Subtract 50 points.
10. Wait, if it's a really, really sexy costume. Add 50 points. ;-)

11. If you list your exact age. Add 10 points.
12. If you list your exact, current, honest body type. Add 20 points.
13. If you live outside of Austin, Texas. Subtract 5 points per mile.
14. If you let a guy know you are interested by winking. Subtract 20 points.
15. If you actually take the time to email him instead. Add 20 points.
16. If you like to waste my time with a week's worth of emails. Subtract 30 points.
17. If you believe connection is all about voice and having a real conversation and would rather get me on the phone. Add 30 points.
18. If you have tried eHarmony. Subtract 40 points.
19. If you are also meeting people in the real world. Add 50 points.
20. If you are actually not really single, or you are just goofing around, or you're taking a girlfriend up on a dare, or you have no intentions of meeting real men in real life. Subtract 100 points.

21. If you can admit that looks are important. Add 10 points.
22. If you know that you have a lot more going for you than your looks. Add 20 points.
23. If you look as good without makeup as you do with. Add 30 points.
24. If you can keep a lively, intelligent conversation. Add 40 points.
25. If you call yourself spontaneous, and really, truly mean it. Add 50 points.
26. If you read books, but don't define yourself as an academic. Add 10 points.
27. If you are confident in your career, but still make time for new experiences. Add 10 points.
28. If you like to party, but do so sparingly and responsibly. Add 10 points.
29. If you are intriguing rather than impressive. Add 20 points.
30. If you are trendy rather than original. Subtract 30 points.

31. If you like aquariums. Add 10 points.
32. If you like being photographed. Add 10 points.
33. If you like mayonnaise. Subtract 20 points.
34. If you have your own place with no roommates. Add 30 points.
35. If you listen to music that is not on the radio. Add 40 points.
36. If you actually go to concerts. Add 50 points.
37. If you are writing me to try to get into concerts for free. Subtract 50 points.
38. If you are writing me to get free massages. Subtract 50 points.
39. If you are a Gemini. Subtract 50 points.
40. If you spend more time watching TV than with men, face to face. Subtract 50 points.


41. If you truly love yourself and love being a woman. Add 10 points.
42. If you truly love men and hold no bitterness toward any of us. Add 20 points.
43. If you truly love sex and have a high sex drive. Add 30 points.
44. If you truly love life and see every day as a potential adventure. Add 40 points.
45. If you believe that honesty is not only the best policy, but one of the strongest aphrodisiacs. Add 50 points.
46. If you have come to realize that passionate relationships always being passionately. Add 50 points.
47. If you have come to realize that age is nothing but the number of times we've traveled around the sun. Add 50 points.
48. If you are not afraid to make a man feel desired as a man. Add 50 points.
49. If you fully understand that all we ever have is the present moment. Add 50 points.
50. If you believe that chemistry can be determined by a test or a survey. Subtract 50 points.

51. If you believe that chemistry can only be felt one way: By having fun together in person. Add 100 points.

So how did you do? Did you smile or laugh? Or did you take it waaay too seriously. Just like any other means of meeting people, the key to online success is having fun.

Email me your score and I will ascertain your compatibility based on my tried and true compatibility matching scale. ;-)

What Makes a Woman Sexy?

A few years ago I was a photographer for a popular men's magazine in Hollywood. One day I did test shoots for two girls. They were both the same age and both aspiring models.

One had all the attributes of natural beauty. She had a nice form and great features. But was she sexy? Not really. She let her hair hang carelessly. Her clothes were plain and they hid her best features. And she carried herself like she didn’t much like herself.

Later, I met a girl who had much less to work with physically. But I have to tell you, she had a lot of sex appeal. I mean a lot. She dressed well. She carried herself with energy. The way she moved and the way she looked at you was very feminine and very sensual. She had this magnetism. I don’t know how else to describe it; she just had a magnetic inner beauty that was very sexy.

It seems that the older I get, the more I appreciate true sexiness, and the better I can articulate what makes a woman sexy. To me, sex appeal has little to do with age, or physical looks, or whether or not you have had children.

It's all about attitude. Being sexy is thinking sexy. Thinking sexy projects inner beauty. It's about confidence, charm, body language, warmth, sensuality, spontaneity, and intelligence.

A sexy woman loves herself. She loves being a woman. She is happy with her body. She loves feeling sexy and thinking sexy and flirting. She enjoys being enjoyed as a woman.

A sexy woman loves men. She sees men as equals, not just as lovers. She would never treat a man in a cold way. There's no bitterness toward men in general, or any one in particular.

A sexy woman loves sex. She knows sexual appreciation is linked to self-esteem. She sees sex as a pleasure, not a chore. As one of the greatest joys of life, not a bargaining chip. She loves when a man can arouse both her body and mind. She knows that sex is the heartbeat of any potential relationship.

A sexy woman loves life. She's always up for a new adventure. She's not afraid to let her hair down. She feels at least five years younger than her actual age. She's knows that life is short and all we take with us are memories.

A sexy woman knows that attraction between a man and a woman is natural. It's automatic. It's always there just beneath the surface. We don't need to impress each other. If it's there, we'll feel it.

A sexy woman is not afraid to make a man feel desired as a man. She has no time for games. She wants to makes him feel like the most irresistible man on Earth.

A sexy woman knows that chemistry is not determined by a test or a survey. There is only one way to feel chemistry: In person.

A sexy woman knows that passionate relationships always start out passionately. It's in those first moments of meeting.

It's the eye contact. It's the butterflies. It's getting closer. It's the first brush of our hands. It's the crackle of tension in the air. It's the way a voice touches your mind just as fingertips would touch your skin.

Chemistry happens in those amazing moments when you just feel at ease, your heart races faster, and you think of the adventures that lie ahead. When this happens, it’s the most electrifying and exhilarating feeling in the world.

What is it that causes two people to become attracted?

Is it a feeling from inside?
Like a magnet drawing him toward you...

Or is it a force from outside?
Like a slingshot shooting you toward him...

A sexy woman knows that it doesn't matter. All that matters is that we took a chance...